To be completely honest, when I first thought about making an issue about the quest, the first band that I thought could truly talk about all the “feels” of life, was Daughter. Specifically speaking with Elena reminded me of the kind of humanistic universal path we all seem to take and it was all too connecting.
Is there a time in your life where you’ve realized you’ve lost your path? How did you find your way back home?
I think it’s important to look after yourself and also be aware of when certain destructive patterns are starting to form in your life in order to fight them off early. To have a good routine, one that benefits your mental wellbeing is really important. To give yourself time to reset and I guess to realize what small things you can change to make you happier on a daily basis. A lot of destructive behavior is often a search for a quick fix, either to numb yourself or to create a short burst of happiness, which cannot be maintained long-term.
To you, what creates inner wisdom?
I think there is a lot to be said about following your guts. If you don’t feel something is right, then it’s probably your animal instinct for sensing danger. I have made so many decisions by trusting my insides! But I also think to counter-balance that idea, what makes you wise is also forgiving yourself for the moments in your life where you have made stupid decisions. Letting them go and moving on instead of dragging yourself down and punishing yourself forever.
Do you believe your purpose is to create music? Do you have/what are your other passions?
I don’t think I really have a specific purpose, I’d like to think that I could do lots of things if I set my mind to them. But music is definitely the one thing that balances me; I find I don’t feel right if I haven’t written something in a while. I have been creating music for over 10 years now because it is a totally magical way to spend my days.
What gives you the strength of knowing your own identity, unshielded and raw?
The idea of losing your identity is something I have been thinking about a lot lately. I have watched my grandmother slowly losing herself due to Alzheimers over the past few years, it’s the saddest thing to witness, I can’t bear it. “Who” you are is such a hard thing to fully know; I think as you grow older you are so much more accepting of yourself and your flaws. I felt as a teenager that I was constantly tearing myself apart, trying to mold myself into something and somebody else. Now I see my positive and negatives equally, addressing my social anxieties, noticing that I have the same mannerisms as my parents… all these little elements of nature and nurture that have made me who I am. I think I am becoming more and more confident in being able to write about the rawest weirdest part of myself in our songs, I think it actually helps me to understand my own brain a lot better.
You’ve talked about drawing inspiration from sadness; do you feel that you use it to heal the sadness?
It seems that as soon as I write about the saddest moments and thoughts that I have had, I feel free of them. Writing is such a positive thing for me; it is the balance to those horrible sad internal moments.
“Who you are is such a hard thing to fully know; I think as you grow older you are so much more accepting of yourself and your flaws. I felt as a teenager that I was constantly tearing myself apart, trying to mold myself into something and somebody else. Now I see my positive and negatives equally, addressing my social anxieties, noticing that I have the same mannerisms as my parents… all these little elements of nature and nurture that have made me who I am.”
There seems to be a fear in the press community about asking too personal of questions to musicians about the contents of the songs. Would you be willing / interested in sharing more in depth explanations of a song of yours that is closest to your heart?
Oh I have had some horrendous interviews in the past… Some people are definitely not scared of asking personal questions. But to be fair my lyrics are not particularly cryptic, especially on the new record, so I feel the meaning of each song is already pretty obvious. I definitely talked a lot more about the meaning of songs on this record compared to anything we have done before; it felt like an emotionally open book anyway. My grandmother features on the new record a couple of times, as the main inspiration in “Doing The Right Thing”, and there’s a little moment of her in “Mothers”, I feel very affected by what she is going through, and maybe even more so because she has no understanding or concept of her condition. I guess I make a lot of my work through clinging onto memories, my inspiration comes from the words and feelings of other people, so to lose all of that back catalogue of moments, like a life-time of photographs and love-letters have just been totally wiped out. It’s utterly terrifying to me.
Is there anything you’d like to add/share about what’s to come for you/the band?
we have headline tours for the rest of the year, so just very excited to travel around and see more of the world and play music every day
What are things, people, books, or quotes you refer back to when you need a boost?
I think my biggest boost of happiness in life comes from talking to other people, whether it’s my best friends around a table, my parents or my love, to have other people to share thoughts with makes me feel so much better when I’m having terrible brain times. Also, just looking up at the sky and realizing that I am a tiny little insignificant speck of dust so I should probably get on with it – the fear of dying without finishing another record snaps me out of it pretty quickly!!
Why do you think we’re on this earth to begin with?
I think we are all here completely by accident. I don’t think we were ever supposed to be here. It actually makes our achievements all the more incredible, weird creatures building and creating and talking and falling in love with each other – when we are not fighting and being awful to one another, we can actually be really beautiful things.